Anis called me this morning complaining about Abah again. Mak and Abah have been staying at Anis' place for more than a few weeks already. Not that Anis doesnt like them hanging around at her place (how can she with all the home cooked foods coming from Mak), but what she cant stand is the way Abah is treating Mak.
You see Abah loves Mak dearly but he can be so helpless when Mak is around. It seems that he can never do a single thing on his own. He always have Mak on his call.
You see Abah loves Mak dearly but he can be so helpless when Mak is around. It seems that he can never do a single thing on his own. He always have Mak on his call.
Cik Zah, mana butang baju saya
Cik Zah Cik Zah macam mana nak buat ni ?
Cik Zah Cik Zah saya cari tak jumpa pun
Yes, Abah can never find ANYTHING in the house. And to some extend he can never DO anything too! Mak would always do EVERYTHING for him. From preparing his everyday shirts and pants, his "baju sembahyang", his socks, his towels, his everything. We grew up seeing all that and we all thought its NORMAL.
Hmm... but now since they are both getting older, we feel sympathy towards Mak. Anis especially can be very vocal with Abah. So whenever she hears Abah calling Mak for help, she wouldnt hesitate to snap Abah
Hmm... but now since they are both getting older, we feel sympathy towards Mak. Anis especially can be very vocal with Abah. So whenever she hears Abah calling Mak for help, she wouldnt hesitate to snap Abah
Abah cuba lah buat sendiri !
Like this morning said Anis, Mak had prepared his bread for breakfast and all he got to do was put the bread in the toaster, and that too he couldnt do. Anis said she just couldnt take it. And Mak according to Anis, although at times complains about Abah, always gives in to his helplessness.
I told Anis, maybe thats what their relationship is all about. Perhaps thats Abah's way of being 'manja' with Mak and perhaps Mak deep down inside, enjoys that too. The feeling of being needed by the husband. Its like their own way of communicating their love to each other. And maybe we should never interfer that.
Alas, I think we all have our on ways of sustaining a relationship. Theres no standardize means and everybody would only be comfortable with their own routines. Be it by way of helplessness or bossy or bickering or whatever ... as long as both know they love each other despite the flaws.
After all, nobody's perfect.
:-P
I told Anis, maybe thats what their relationship is all about. Perhaps thats Abah's way of being 'manja' with Mak and perhaps Mak deep down inside, enjoys that too. The feeling of being needed by the husband. Its like their own way of communicating their love to each other. And maybe we should never interfer that.
Alas, I think we all have our on ways of sustaining a relationship. Theres no standardize means and everybody would only be comfortable with their own routines. Be it by way of helplessness or bossy or bickering or whatever ... as long as both know they love each other despite the flaws.
After all, nobody's perfect.
:-P
6 comments:
yep cikfit, i agree with ur statement, kdg2 love is not only about receiving but it is more about giving... ada masa kita tgk org tu mcm bodoh je (sayalah tu thehehe) dok melayan kerenah yg mcm bodoh la jugak... tp love is love. Kalau saya ckp tak berharap apa pun mesti saya bohonglah. of cause saya harap org itu juga sygkan saya, tp setiap dr kita ni melalui proses kasih syg tu dgn cara yg berbeza-beza... mungkin bg kita, kita rasa susah atau bodoh tapi bg tuan punya badan dia tak rasa susah atau bodoh sb itu cara dia menzahirkan kasih syg... ecewahhhh muahahaha...
Ya ya ya saya bersetuju dgn kata2 sedari itu. Memang kalau org bercinta kita nampak mcm bodoh ja... ikut ja apa partner/husband/wife dia cakap, but then bagi merek2 itu .... syok tak dak dah kan kan kan boleh buat semua itu pd org yg disayangi ?
:-P
ya ya... kdg2 kalau buat memende yg agak menyusahkan diri utk org yg kita syg tu, seberat mana pun apa yg kita dok pikul boleh rasa ringan ja sebabnya kita buat berlandaskan kasih syg... cuba kalau anis dok becinta sakan esok, mesti dia dok rasa yg sama lah jugak... org tua ni kdg2 romantik dia lain mcm jgn tak tau... thehehehe
dlm ertikatanya kalau abah hang dok asik ja sebut nama mak hang tu, mana hang tau kut dia berdua ada secret code... kalau 3x sebut nama mean i luv u ka, 4x mean baby, i luv u dearly ka... muahahaha
Salam PF, akak (or maybe aunty is more appropriate kot hehe) blog-hopped kesini. just to share, for me its the other way round.. my mom thinks that by dedicating so much of time & energy on my hubs & kids, i must feel burdened & miserable. quite to the contrary, it gives me great satisfaction & fulfilment. so i guess to each their own :)
btw, are u add? my eldest have adhd and hes 23 now :)
:) ann, shud i gelak sekali lagi skrg ni? i cover ni... i cover... really :p
*u know why*
Cissss !!!!!
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