Have you ever encountered this situation especially when youre dealing with the some people ? Like when you walk into an office asking and enquring certain things and the man/lady just look at you with blank expression. And it seems like they re reluctant to entertain you just because youre smiling all the time and talking to them nicely. It happens... it just happens all the times. Maybe that is why some people cannot help to flaunt their titles, all the Tengkus the Datos and Datins, the Tan Sris and Puan Sris .. its like an unwritten rule that if you dont flaunt it, people wont notice you. Thats why some are not hesitant to stress their titles when introducing themselves so that people take note and give due respect. In that sense I dont really blame them, because without the titles people just dont care about you. But then, once your title is known and acknowledged then only you can afford to be nice, and people will say that youre a very good Dato who still can be nice and humble even with the title.
And with the title you have youre excused for being rude and arrogant too because youre deemed to have the power and people are afraid of power.So when youre a Dato you have the previlege to shout at people or even if you dont shout you can lift your head and flare your nose while looking down when addressing someone so that the person youre talking to knows that your Da Man.
So ... if youre someone without a title, do not be humble and do not talk nicely, they will know that youre somebody !
Life is definitely weird.
2 comments:
because in our asian culture, respect is demanded and not earned, where as elsewhere it is earned and not demanded. good because we learn humulity young and have unqualified veneration for our elders, bad because of all the reasons you have highlighted.
hi anique! regards from leiden. :D (ijul)
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