UMN* 's Seven Stages of Grief

Tak dapat dinafikan lagi kadang aku rasa, UMN* sekarang seperti kekasih yang telah ditinggalkan, yang telah disisihkan, terutamanya selepas 8 Mac lepas.

Just look at the way their members handle the situation, I am beginning to believe that they are undergoing the Seven Stages of Grief.

I had suspected this all along, and I think they have experienced the first few stages already. I m not sure if they are manly enough or to certain extend humanly wise enough to go through all the stages, especially the last three.

1. SHOCK & DENIAL-

You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.

Haha.. yeah... they didn't believe it. They just didn't get it why rakyat don't want them anymore. They were shock alrite and some were in the state of denial, blaming almost every other thing except themselves.

2. PAIN & GUILT-
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.

You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.

For most of them, they do feel the pain of course. They are in pain and thats why they are behaving they way they behave now.

The guilt, hmmm... this is a bit tricky because I dont think anybody would openly confess of being guilty. Chaotic phase... definitely !

3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.

You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")

Hahaha... this is when the arrogant who shall be nameless but starts his name with an A came into the scene. The "Why Me ?" phase. They are suddenly getting angry at people and at other races. Making all sorts of provocations just to show their anger.

4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.

During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.

This is yet to happen. But I think its getting nearer already.

5. THE UPWARD TURN-
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.

Hmmm..... not sure if they will ever ever come to this phase.

6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH-
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.

Tsk tsk tsk....... ermm.. to expect the mind to start working again... ? Not sure if it is ever functional in the first place. But I do hope they can start "seeking realistic solutions".

7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward

I guess this phase will only come when they have become an opposition

Source :http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html

They are in pain. Just like an angry bf/gf who cant accept the situation, they have to hurt back to cover their ego and pain. Exactly like a hurting lion .... it will run amok because he s in pain.

:-)